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> “People feel more lonely when they’re around other people”

Oh it’s entirely easy to be super lonely when surrounded by other people. The easiest way to achieve this that I’ve found is being a +1 at a wedding. You’re surrounded with people you’ve never met who all know each other pretty well and have tight bonds. Makes you feel super isolated and alone in a way that just isn’t noticeable in an empty room.



I used to feel like this and yes at weddings in particular.

At some point I realized that I am not the only +1 at this wedding and somehow those other +1s aren't fucked up in their head about it.

Eventually you realize your agency. Like you can for example spot the other +1 and strike up a conversation.


> Eventually you realize your agency

Oh that's not the problem at all for me. I am perfectly capable of feeling lonely right through that entire super fun engaging conversation with strangers. Because a conversation doesn't scratch that same itch. Like eating potato chips when what you really need is steak.


It's not a good metaphor because a potato chips conversation can end up a steak conversation


Sometimes yes sometimes no. Sometimes steak just isn't available, but you can have a great roast instead.




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