If we are sitting together with a lull in the conversation and you check your phone, then that sends a signal to me that you are not interested in our conversation. I personally find it rude, and it impacts my impression of the other person.
But, let's flip it around. If your phone goes off and you ignore it then that sends a message that I'm more important than whatever else that could be going on in your life. That can even make our connection stronger.
I've personally used this to my advantage when talking to someone that I want to impress (e.g. a potential investor). If my phone is going off like crazy I simply apologize and tell the other person that I need to mute my phone because it's a distraction from our conversation and that his feedback is more important than whatever else is going on.
Haha, how far has society fallen that not being distracted by something is considered out-of-the-ordinary respectful?
I agree with you, I think I'd feel the same about a lull, unless they attempt to re-initiate the conversation after a bit. But I also assume people could be expecting an important message or are contractually obligated to be aware of their messages, so I feel they should go ahead and check during a pause (but maybe announce why).
But, let's flip it around. If your phone goes off and you ignore it then that sends a message that I'm more important than whatever else that could be going on in your life. That can even make our connection stronger.
I've personally used this to my advantage when talking to someone that I want to impress (e.g. a potential investor). If my phone is going off like crazy I simply apologize and tell the other person that I need to mute my phone because it's a distraction from our conversation and that his feedback is more important than whatever else is going on.