If zem and I were in a room by ourselves, I don't think either of us would try to be "boss". Only once someone who supports such power structures, such as yourself, enters the picture, do we have to start protecting ourselves against such people. Have you read Lord of the Flies?
I'm self-employed, and the existence of a top-down hierarchical power structure is not evidence that one is necessary. We're also now several straw mans away from the original argument.
Isn't that exactly what you just did?