Of note: bootstrapping is (potentially) hackable between two willing parties. At least per Aron’s study[1]. Who knows if it would replicate.
At least in my own relationships I have seen the pattern of escalating personal self-disclosure leading to deeper and more meaningful bonds.
Honestly I think this is why alcohol plays a role in so many early friendships - the disinhibiting effects make it easier to admit personal details to people you don’t already fully trust.
Doesn’t mean you need to get tipsy to make friends, but you’ll need to find other ways to open up.
At least in my own relationships I have seen the pattern of escalating personal self-disclosure leading to deeper and more meaningful bonds.
Honestly I think this is why alcohol plays a role in so many early friendships - the disinhibiting effects make it easier to admit personal details to people you don’t already fully trust.
Doesn’t mean you need to get tipsy to make friends, but you’ll need to find other ways to open up.
1. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/014616729723400...