I'm sorry you're going through this. I don't know what your position is but I may be able to help you with the "finding a new job" part of your anxiety. Please feel free to reach out to me on twitter @devetorecruiter. Good luck with everything!
We live seprated already and have our own lifes (and boyfriends, at least for her) but the divorce has not been finalized yet and so she technically is still my wife.