Curious, have you ever looked at the negative self-talk through the lens of nutritional deficiencies?
Specifically magnesium intake?
"In healthy adults, magnesium sits inside the NMDA receptors, preventing them from being triggered by weak signals that may stimulate your nerve cells unnecessarily. When your magnesium levels are low, fewer NMDA receptors are blocked. This means they are prone to being stimulated more often than necessary.]"
I literally have less self-talk when my magnesium intake is consistent. It's similar to the effect I've had when taking an SSRI (Lexapro).
We hold ourselves to a higher standard than others because we're more invested in ourselves. If you are constantly fucking up, gaining a bunch of weight, begin super lazy, or whatever it is much easier for me to forgive you then it is for me to forgive myself because I don't have to live with the consequences of your failings.
Everyone deserves compassion and understanding... except for me.
Obviously this is nonsense, I know for a fact that it's nonsense...and yet, I'm still a dumb piece of shit that can't internalize the fact that it's nonsense.
If the answer is “no” then maybe it’s time you stop treating yourself this way and react with more internal kindness.