Personally, I think the terms "Software *" are all interchangeable.

Programmer, coder, developer, and engineer.

Everyone has their own subjective opinion on how each one is slightly different but they all mean the same thing in general. Nitpicking about calling it X versus calling it Y is petty.

In Germany "we" are simply called (and call ourselfs) "Entwickler" (developer), by professional people. If you're rather senior you'll become an "Software Architekt" (software architect/engineer)

Many people who don't know much about IT call us "Programmierer" (programmer)

I studied Computer Science and our professors always called us "Ingenieure" (engineers)

So academically I'm a scientist, my job description says developer and for my family I'm a programmer, well I don't care much...